When we find it hard to process a loss we need to reach out and ask for help. Counseling, grief process groups, helpful friends and family can be such powerful allies, but sometimes we also feel the need to reconnect with our lost ones. We may wish to say something to them, or ask them something, or reconcile with them.
Communication with those who have passed is for healing. Most people find it an emotional and moving experience, or a freeing experience.
Your loved ones are the people we can communicate with because a connection exists through your love and your wish to hear from them. When a person crosses over, they do not take negative emotions or animosity with them. This is why healing is possible even after someone dies. Even a difficult relationship in life can become healed after a death.
Please know that connection to a specific loved one is usually possible, but no medium can guarantee this. The spirit world is in charge and it takes a great deal of energy for loved ones to come through. In addition, there are stages which a soul must go through after leaving the physical body behind. After physical death there is learning and growth.